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The Development of the Brain
Prenatal Development
When does brain development begin?
Brain development begins
with the formation & closure of the neural tube, the earliest nervous tissue that looks like a fat earthworm stretched
out along the entire back of the embryo.
The neural tube forms
from the neural plate, which begins forming just 16 days after conception. This plate lengthens & starts folding up, forming
a groove at around 18 days, which then begins fusing shut into a tube around 22 days post-conception.
By 27 days, the tube is
fully closed & has already begun its transformation into the brain & spinal cord of the embryo.

When does the fetus's brain begin to work?
Generally speaking, the central
nervous system (which is composed of the brain/spinal cord) matures in a sequence from "tail"
to head. In the 5th week after conception, the first synapses begin forming in a fetus's spinal cord.
By the 6th week, these early
neural connections permit the first fetal movements - spontaneous arches & curls of the whole body -that researchers can
detect thru ultrasound imaging.
Many other movements soon
follow - of the limbs (8 weeks) & fingers (10 weeks),
as well as some surprisingly coordinated actions (hiccuping, stretching, yawning, sucking, swallowing,
grasping & thumb-sucking).
By the end of the 1st trimester,
a fetus's movement repertoire is remarkably rich, even though most pregnant women can feel none of it. (Most women sense the first fetal movements around 18 weeks of pregnancy.)
The 2nd trimester marks the
onset of other critical reflexes: continuous breathing movements (that is, rhythmic contractions
of the diaphragm & chest muscles) & coordinated sucking & swallowing reflexes.
These abilities are controlled
by the brainstem, which sits above the spinal cord but below the higher, more recently-evolved cerebral cortex. The brainstem
is responsible for many of our body's most vital functions - heart rate, breathing & blood pressure. It's largely mature
by the end of the 2nd trimester, which is when babies first become able to survive outside the womb.
Last of all to mature is the
cerebral cortex, which is responsible for most of what we think of as mental life:
- conscious experience
- voluntary actions
- thinking
- remembering
- feeling
It has only begun to function
around the time gestation comes to an end. Premature babies show very basic electrical activity in the primary sensory regions
of the cerebral cortex - those areas that perceive touch, vision & hearing - as well as in primary motor regions of the
cerebral cortex.
In the last trimester, fetuses
are capable of simple forms of learning, like habituating (decreasing their startle response)
to a repeated auditory stimulus, such as a loud clap just outside the mother's abdomen.
Late-term fetuses also seem
to learn about the sensory qualities of the womb, since several studies have shown that newborn babies respond to familiar
odors (such as their own amniotic fluid) & sounds (such as
a maternal heartbeat or their own mother's voice).
In spite of these rather sophisticated
abilities, babies enter the world with a still-primitive cerebral cortex & it's the gradual maturation of this complex
part of the brain that explains much of their emotional & cognitive maturation in the first few years of life.


Postnatal Development
How developed is the brain by birth?
Although it's already undergone
an amazing amount of development, the brain of a newborn baby is still very much a work-in-progress. It's small - little more
than 1/4 of its adult size & strikingly uneven in its maturity.
By birth, only the lower portions
of the nervous system (the spinal cord/brain stem) are very well developed, whereas the
higher regions (the limbic system/cerebral cortex) are still rather primitive.
The lower brain is therefore
largely in control of a newborn's behavior: all of that kicking, grasping, crying, sleeping, rooting & feeding are functions
of the brain stem & spinal cord. Even the striking visual behavior of newborns - their ability to track a bold moving
object, like a red ball of string, or to orient to Mom or Dad's face - is thought to be
controlled by visual circuits in the brain stem.
When pediatricians conduct
a series of reflex tests on the newborn, they're primarily assessing the function of these lower neural centers. These reflexes
include the doll's eye maneuver (the baby's eyes stay focused forward when his head is turned to
one side), the "Moro" or startle response (baby splays out arms & then slowly closes
them in response to a sudden movement or feeling of falling) & even the remarkable stepping reflex (the baby "walks" when you hold him up with feet touching a flat surface).
The human brain takes time
to develop, so nature has insured that the neural circuits responsible for the most vital bodily functions - breathing, heartbeat,
circulation, sleeping, sucking & swallowing - are up & running by the time a baby emerges from the protective womb.
The rest of brain development
can follow at a more leisurely pace, maximizing the opportunity for a baby's experience & environment to shape his emerging
mind.

What role do parents play in a baby's brain development?
Parents are another important part of the developmental equation. Infants prefer human stimuli:
- your face
- voice
- touch
- & even smell
over everything else.
They innately orient to people's
faces & would rather listen to a speech or singing than any other kind of sound.
Just as newborn babies are
born with a set of very useful instincts for surviving & orienting to their new environment, parents are equally programmed
to love & respond to our babies' cues. Most adults (& children) find infants irresistible
& instinctively want to nurture & protect them.
It's certainly no accident
that the affection most parents feel towards their babies & the kind of attention we most want to shower them with:
- touching
- holding
- comforting
- rocking
- singing
- talking to
provide precisely the best kind of stimulation for their growing
brains.
Because brain development
is so heavily dependent on early experience, most babies will receive the right kind of nurturing from their earliest days, thru our loving urges & parenting instincts.
In spite of all the recent
hype about "making your baby smarter," scientists haven't discovered any special tricks
for enhancing the natural wiring phase in children's brain development. Normal, loving, responsive caregiving seems to provide babies with the ideal environment for encouraging their own exploration, which is always the best route to learning.
The one form of stimulation
that has been proven to make a difference is language: infants & children who are conversed with,
read to & otherwise engaged in lots of verbal interaction show somewhat more advanced linguistic skills than children
who aren't as verbally engaged by their caregivers.
Because language is fundamental
to most of the rest of cognitive development, this simple action - talking & listening to your child - is one of the best ways to make the most of his or her critical brain -building years.


What are the most important changes in the brain after birth?
While babies come into the
world with some very useful survival reflexes, they're still strikingly helpless, because the cerebral cortex is still quite immature. As the highest, most recently evolved part of the brain, the cerebral
cortex is responsible for all of our conscious thoughts, feelings, memories and voluntary actions.
Although all of the neurons
in the cortex are produced before birth, they're poorly connected. In contrast to the brain stem and spinal cord, the cerebral
cortex produces most of its synaptic connections after birth, in a massive burst of synapse formation known as the exuberant period.
At its
peak, the cerebral cortex creates an astonishing 2 million new synapses every second. With these new connections
come a baby's many mental milestones, such as color vision, a pincer grasp, or a strong attachment to his parents.
By 2 years
of age, a toddler's cerebral cortex contains well over a hundred trillion synapses. This period of synaptic
exuberance varies in different parts of the cerebral cortex:
it begins earlier in primary sensory regions,
like the visual cortex or primary touch area of the cortex, while it takes off somewhat later in the temporal and frontal
lobes, brain areas involved in higher cognitive and emotional functions.
Nonetheless, the number of synapses remains at this peak, over-abundant level
in all areas of the cerebral cortex through-out middle childhood (4-8 years of age).
Beginning in the middle elementary
school years and continuing until the end of adolescence, the number of synapses then gradually declines down to adult levels.
This pattern of synaptic production
and pruning corresponds remarkably well to children's overall brain activity during development.
Using PET imaging technology, neuroscientists have found dramatic changes in the level of energy use by
children's brains over the first several years of life - from very low at birth, to a rapid rise and over-shoot between infancy
and the early elementary school years, followed by a gradual decline to adult levels between middle childhood and the end
of adolescence.
In other words, children's brains are working very hard, especially during the period of synaptic exuberance
that corresponds to the various critical periods in their mental development (see above).
Besides synapse formation
and pruning, the other most significant event in postnatal brain development is myelination. Newborns'
brains contain very little myelin, the dense impermeable substance that covers the length of mature
brain cells and is necessary for clear, efficient electrical transmission.
This lack of myelin
is the main reason why babies and young children process information so much more slowly than adults - why it might take a
toddler a minute or more to begin responding to a request such as "Joey, bring Mommy the teddy bear."
Myelination
of the cerebral cortex begins in the primary motor and sensory areas - regions that receive the first input from the eyes,
ears, nose, skin and mouth - and then progresses to "higher-order," or association regions that control the more complex
integration of perception, thoughts, memories and feelings.
Myelination
is a very extended process: although most areas of the brain begin adding this critical insulation within the first 2 years
of life, some of the more complex areas in the frontal and temporal lobes continue the process thru-out childhood and perhaps
well into a person's 20's.
Unlike
synaptic pruning, myelination appears to be largely "hard-wired." Its sequence is very predictable
in all healthy children and the only environmental factor known to influence it is severe malnutrition.

Are there any differences in the development of boys' &
girls' brains?
Yes, but they're subtle &
a product of both nature & nurture.
Neuroscientists have known
for many years that the brains of men & women aren't identical. Men's brains tend to be more lateralized -that
is, the 2 hemispheres operate more independently during specific mental tasks like speaking or navigating around one's environment.
For the same kinds of tasks,
females tend to use both their cerebral hemispheres more equally.
Another difference is size:
males of all ages tend to have slightly larger brains, on average, than females, even after correcting for differences in
body size.
Electrical measurements reveal
differences in boys' & girls' brain function from the moment of birth. By 3 months of age, boys' & girls' brains respond
differently to the sound of human speech.
Because they appear so early
in life, such differences are presumably a product of sex-related genes or hormones. We do know that testosterone levels rise
in male fetuses as early as 7 weeks of gestation & that testosterone affects the growth & survival of neurons in many
parts of the brain.
Female sex hormones may also
play a role in shaping brain development, but their function is currently not well understood.
Sex differences in the brain
are reflected in the somewhat different developmental timetables of girls & boys. By most measures of sensory & cognitive
development, girls are slightly more advanced:
- vision
- hearing
- memory
- smell
- touch
are all more acute in female than male infants. Girl babies
also tend to be somewhat more socially-attuned - responding more readily to human voices or faces, or crying more vigorously
in response to another infant's cry & they generally lead boys in the emergence of fine motor & language skills.
Boys eventually catch up in
many of these areas. By age 3, they tend to out-perform girls in one cognitive area:
- visual-spatial integration
which is involved in navigation, assembling jigsaw puzzles &
certain types of hand-eye coordination.
Males of all ages tend to
perform better than females on tasks like mental rotation (imagining how a particular object would
look if it were turned 90 degrees) while females of all ages tend to perform better than males at certain verbal tasks
& at identifying emotional expression in another person's face.
(It's important to emphasize that these findings describe only the average differences between boys & girls. In fact, the range of abilities
within either gender is much greater than the difference between the "average girl" & the "average boy." In other words,
there are plenty of boys with excellent verbal skills & girls with excellent visual-spatial ability. While it can be helpful
for parents & teachers to understand the different tendencies of the 2 sexes,
we shouldn't expect all children to conform to these norms.)
Genes & hormones set the
ball rolling, but they don't fully account for sex differences in children's brains. Experience also plays a fundamental role.
Consider, i.e., the "typical" boy, with his more advanced spatial skills; he may well prefer activities like climbing or pushing
trucks around - all of which further hone his visual-spatial skills.
The
"typical" girl, by contrast, may gravitate more toward games with dolls & siblings, which further reinforce her verbal
& social skills. It isn't hard to see how initial strengths are magnified - thanks to the remarkable plasticity of young
children's brains - into significant differences, even before boys & girls begin preschool.
But this remarkable plasticity
also provides parents & other caregivers with a wonderful opportunity to compensate for the different tendencies of boys
& girls; i.e., it's known that greater verbal interaction can improve young children's language skills.
So the "typical boy" may especially
benefit from a caregiver who engages him in lots of conversation & word play. The "typical girl" may benefit more
from a caregiver who engages her in a jigsaw puzzle or building a block tower - activities that encourage her visual-spatial integration.
The point isn't to discourage children from sex-typical play (since pushing trucks or playing w/dolls are great activities for
any young child), but to supplement those activities w/experiences that encourage the development of many competences.

Does experience change the actual structure
of the brain?
Yes. Brain development is
"activity-dependent," meaning that the electrical activity in every circuit:
- sensory
- motor
- emotional
- cognitive
shapes the way that circuit gets put together.
Like computer circuits, neural
circuits process information thru the flow of electricity. Unlike computer circuits, however, the circuits in our brains aren't
fixed structures.
Every experience - whether
it's seeing one's first rainbow, riding a bicycle, reading a book, sharing a joke - excites certain neural circuits &
leaves others inactive. Those that are consistently turned on over time will be strengthened, while those that are rarely
excited may be dropped away.
Or, as neuroscientists sometimes
say, "Cells that fire together, wire together." The elimination of unused neural circuits,
also referred to as "pruning," may sound harsh, but it's generally a good thing.
It streamlines children's
neural processing, making the remaining circuits work more quickly & efficiently. Without synaptic pruning, children wouldn't
be able to walk, talk, or even see properly.

What is a "critical period" in
brain development?
Pruning or selection of active
neural circuits takes place thru-out life, but is far more common in early childhood. Animal studies have shown there
are certain windows of time during which the young are especially sensitive to their environment:
- newborn mice must experience normal whisker sensation in the
1st few days of life or they'll develop abnormal tactile sensitivity in the face region
- cats must be allowed normal visual input during the first 3
months or their vision will be permanently impaired
- monkeys need consistent social contact during the first 6 months or they'll end up extremely emotionally disturbed
Many of the same critical
periods appear to hold for human development, although we're less certain about their exact length.
Thus,
babies also require normal visual input or they may suffer permanent impairment; children born with crossed or "lazy" eyes
will fail to develop full acuity and depth perception if the problem isn't promptly corrected.
Language skills depend critically
on verbal input (or sign language, for babies with hearing impairments) in the 1st few years
or certain skills, particularly grammar and pronunciation, may be permanently impacted.
The critical period for language-learning
begins to close around 5 years of age and ends around puberty. This is why individuals who learn a new language after puberty
almost always speak it with a foreign accent.

Are there critical periods in the development
of every brain function?
Probably not. In the case
of visual development, certain abilities are more at-risk than others when a young child's vision is impaired by eye-crossing
or other visual problems (i.e., congenital cataracts).
Thus, 2 visual abilities:
- acuity (the perception of fine detail)
- binocularity (the coordinated use of both eyes)
which is especially important for depth perception - do depend
on normal visual experience as a child, whereas 2 other visual abilities:
aren't impaired by visual problems in early life.
A similar distinction holds
for language development: certain skills (incl: grammar & phonology - the ability to perceive
& produce individual speech sounds) are more sensitive than others (such as vocabulary
size) to a child's experience with language in the first few years of life.
We know much less about the
development of other mental skills, such as:
- emotional functioning
- mathematical ability
- musical skill
If their development is comparable
to vision & language, we may expect that some features will be subject to a critical period while others aren't. One musical skill known as "perfect pitch" -
the ability to identify a musical note without reference to a tuning note - seems to develop only in musicians who began their
training before the age of 7 (& then, not in all professional musicians).
Similarly, a child's social-emotional
development depends on a positive, nurturing attachment to a primary caregiver, based on the higher frequency of serious behavioral problems among children who were severely neglected during the 1st year or more of life, (i.e., the thousands of
Romanian children reared in state-run orphanages).
Comparable problems emerge
among monkeys who are reared in isolation & neuroscientists are beginning to understand how the lack of attachment in infancy alters development of emotional areas of the primate brain.

Why does the developing brain undergo these
critical periods in its development?
Neuroscientists don't yet
fully understand the biological basis of these critical periods. One theory is that they correspond to a period of synaptic excess in the
brain: between infancy and the early grade school years, the brain actually over-produces connections - some 50% more than
will be preserved in adulthood.
During the critical period, a child's experience:
- sensory
- motor
- emotional
- intellectual
determines which of these synapses will be preserved, through
pruning of the least useful connections. In this way, each child's brain becomes better tuned to meet the challenges of his or her particular environment.
A related theory holds that
learning itself creates critical periods in a child's brain. That is, the longer a child has been exposed to one type of experience
or environment, the less likely he or she will be able to reverse the synaptic learning that has already taken place.
Animal studies provide some
support for this theory. For example, kittens that are deprived of all vision (as opposed to the
vision in just one eye) in the first few months of life show a delayed critical period for visual experience, beginning
from the time their deprivation ends.
Similarly, songbirds normally
learn their species-typical songs early in life, by listening to adults of the same species. However, when newly hatched birds of certain species are isolated, permitting them no song exposure during early life, their critical period for song learning is delayed, even as late as
adulthood.


When is the brain fully developed?
In some way, never. Our brains are continually re-shaping themselves to meet the demands of everyday life, even throughout
adulthood.
However, there are certain
aspects of brain structure & function that do level off during development. For example, the number of neurons peaks even
before birth; some 100 billion are formed during just the first 5 months of gestation. (Recent
evidence suggests that new neurons are produced throughout life, though far less rapidly & probably in numbers sufficient
only to replace those that gradually die off.)
In spite of the great number
of neurons present at birth, brain size itself increases more gradually: a newborn's brain is only about 1/4 the size of an
adult's. It grows to about 80% of adult size by 3 years of age & 90% by age 5.
This growth is largely due
to changes in individual neurons, which are structured much like trees. Thus, each brain cell begins as a tiny sapling &
only gradually sprouts its hundreds of long, branching dendrites. Brain growth (measured as either
weight or volume) is largely due to the growth of these dendrites, which serve as the receiving point for synaptic
input from other neurons.
Another way of measuring brain
development is to look at the speed of neural processing. A newborn's brain works considerably more slowly than an adult's,
transmitting information some 16 times less efficiently.
The speed of neural processing
increases dramatically during infancy & childhood, reaching its maximum at about age 15. Most of this increase is due
to the gradual myelination of nerve cell axons (the long "wires" that connect one neuron to another
neuron's dendrites.)
Myelin is a very dense, fatty
substance that insulates axons much like the plastic sheath on a power cable, increasing the speed of electrical transmission
& preventing cross-talk between adjacent nerve fibers. Myelination (the coating or covering
of axons with myelin) begins around birth & is most rapid in the first 2 years but continues perhaps as late as
30 years of age.
Synaptic development is a
more complicated issue. Synapses are the connecting points between the axon of one neuron & the dendrite of another. While
information travels down the length of a single neuron as an electrical signal, it's transmitted across the synapse through
the release of tiny packets of chemicals or, neurotransmitters.
On the receiving (post-synaptic) side, special receptors for neurotransmitters change the chemical signal into an electrical signal,
repeating the process in this next neuron in the chain. The number of synapses in the cerebral cortex peaks within the first
few years of life, but then declines by about 1/3 between early childhood & adolescence.

How does nutrition affect the developing brain?
Brain development is most
sensitive to a baby's nutrition between mid-gestation and 2 years of age. Children who are malnourished - not just fussy
eaters but truly deprived of adequate calories and protein in their diet - throughout this period don't adequately grow, either physically or mentally.
Their brains are smaller than
normal, because of reduced dendritic growth, reduced myelination and the production of fewer glia (supporting
cells in the brain which continue to form after birth and are responsible for producing myelin).
Inadequate brain growth explains
why children who were malnourished as fetuses and infants suffer often lasting behavioral and cognitive deficits, including
slower language and fine motor development, lower IQ and poorer school performance.
A baby's birth weight - and
brain size - do depend on the quality of his or her mother's nutrition during pregnancy. Pregnant women should gain about
20% of their ideal pre-pregnancy weight (e.g., 26 pounds for a 130-lb woman) to insure adequate
fetal growth.
This requires consuming an
extra 300 calories per day, including 10-12 extra grams of protein.
After birth, brain growth
depends critically on the quality of a child's nutrition. Breast milk offers the best mix of nutrients for promoting brain
growth, provided that breast-fed infants receive some form of iron supplementation beginning around 6 months of age. (Most infant cereals are fortified with iron and breast-fed babies require this supplementation at 6 months
whether or not their mothers are iron-deficient.)
Iron deficiency has been clearly
linked to cognitive deficits in young children. Iron is critical for maintaining an adequate number of oxygen-carrying red
blood cells, which in turn are necessary to fuel brain growth. Bottle-fed babies should receive formula that contains iron.
Because of the rapid pace
of myelination in early life, children need a high level of fat in their diets - some 50% of their total calories - until about 2 years of age. Babies should receive
most of this fat from breast milk or formula in the 1st year of life and breast milk remains an excellent source of liquid
nutrition into the toddler years.
However, whole cow's milk
can be introduced after the 1st birthday and provides an excellent source of both fat and protein for toddlers in the 2nd
year. After 2 years of age, children should begin transitioning to a more heart-healthy level of dietary fat (no more than 30% of total calories), including lower-fat cow's milk (1 or 2%).

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Ask yourself, "How many people
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most likely, you can't tell her... everything....
This is true for 2 important reasons. First; we're afraid of ridicule. We hate to give someone a tool to mock us with, "Oh, that's so silly," or "How stupid!" These rebukes are harmless enough statements
and most often, used in a joking manner, but still, we don't like to hear them.
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machine... or worse.
We tend to interpret these
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that we willingly choose to think abstractly, thus, we can support the notion that we're undeserving, or that we're so bad... or even... insane!
Many of us have even fallen
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- "I'm just mad about you."
- "I'm out of my head."
- "I've just been out of control."
- "It just drives me up a wall"
- "My kids are driving me crazy."
- "I feel like a looneytoon."
- "I'm losing my head."
- "I'm delirious."
- "I'm just touched in the head."
- "I'm not in my right mind."
- "I need to come to my senses."
- "That just kills me."
- "If you're not careful, I'll go insane and I'll take you with
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We think
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Too many of us, were even
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Actually, we're still supporting
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when we're really joining the rest of the human race in their own private mental abasements.
These strange associations
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They're just thoughts.
Everyone has them, some just more than others, but then some of us watched more TV then others. Having them, doesn't verify
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When you're walking thru a
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With our thoughts,
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If we change our thoughts, our emotions will follow. If our MINDSET is focussed on "insane," then we'll produce actions that substantiate our claims to insanity.
If our MINDSET is focussed on healing, then we'll begin to produce more healing thoughts. We absolutely
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If you think for long enough upon
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Whatever the mind of man can conceive... and believe... he shall achieve.
Naopoleon Hill
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Can you consider that there's an alternative?
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Are you capable of changing your thoughts?
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Challenging Irrational Ideas
Challenging irrational ideas (Rational-Emotive therapy)
Our thoughts
influence our feelings. If you think people won't like you, you feel disappointed and withdraw socially. If you think nothing will work out well for you, you feel sad or passive and won't try.
If you think
you must have help to do something, you may feel inadequate and be dependent. If you think you're stupid and incompetent, you may feel worthless and be indecisive and self-critical. No doubt there are connections between thoughts and feelings and/or actions.
Rational-Emotional therapy is built on the belief that how we emotionally respond at any moment depends on our interpretations -our views, our beliefs, our thoughts - of the situation.
The things we think and say to ourselves, not what actually happens to us, cause our positive or negative emotions. Thus, as Albert Ellis (1987) would say,
"Humans largely disturb themselves... your own unreasonable, irrational ideas make you severely anxious, depressed, self-hating, enraged and self-pitying about virtually anything - yes, virtually anything."
This is a very old idea.

If the theory is true that
irrational ideas cause most of your intense, long-lasting, unwanted emotional reactions, then there's a simple solution: change your thinking!
Actually that may not be
as easy as it sounds but that's exactly what Rational-Emotive therapy tries to do. It identifies the patient's unreasonable thoughts and immediately confronts or challenges these problem-producing ideas so that the patient will think differently - see things in a different
way - and thus, feel differently.
Thus, this therapy involves
persuasion, arguments, logic and education - essentially insisting that the person be rational and scientific. If you don't
have a therapist, you can try to persuade yourself that certain thoughts are unreasonable.
What kind of ideas are irrational and make us upset or "sick"? Ellis and Harper (1975) described 10 common irrational ideas, such as
- "Everyone should love and approve of me."
- "I must be competent; it would be awful to fail."
- "When bad things happen, I'm unavoidably very unhappy and should be."
- "It's terrible when things don't go the way I want."
and so on (see step one below).
There are hundreds of such
ideas which transform, for some people, life's ordinary disappointments into terrible, awful catastrophes. Preferences that are quite reasonable are made in our minds into absolutely unreasonable
shoulds, musts and demands which are very upsetting. Mole hills become mountains. We talk ourselves into emotional traumas; yet, the upset person thinks the external events, not his/her thoughts, are upsetting him/her.
Ellis called this mental process
"awfulizing" or "catastrophizing." It's described as a factor in depression in chapter 6.
What is rational
thinking?
1st, as Carl Rogers said,
"the facts are friendly ." We must face the truth; that's rational.
2ndly, if we view reality
as a determinist (see next method), we'll tell ourselves that "whatever
happens is lawful, not awful." Everything has a cause(s). The connections (called laws) between causes and effects are inevitable, the nature of things. So, when
something happens that you don't like, don't get all bent out of shape, just accept that the event had its necessary and sufficient causes (and try to change it the next time).
Thirdly, Ellis urges us to
constantly use the scientific methods of objective observation and experimentation,
i.e. the systematic manipulation of variables to see what happens; i.e., if you think no one would accept a date with you, Ellis would give you an assignment to ask out 5 appropriate, interesting people.
If your belief (that no one will go out with you) proved to be correct with those 5 people, then Ellis
would direct you to start manipulating variables, e.g. how can your appearance or approach be improved, how can you pick more receptive "dates" to approach and
so on and observing the outcome.
In short, we accept what's happening and what has happened as lawful, as the natural outcome of immutable but complex laws and not as terrible,
awful events that we or someone should have prevented. And, while we can't change the past, we can learn to use these "laws of psychology" to help ourselves and others in the future. What we can't change in the future, we can accept.
To understand any strong, troublesome emotion, you need to see clearly 3 parts of your experience:
- The actual upsetting physical-social
situation and event, what you and others did and the outcomes. i.e.:
boyfriend and you argued about what to do this evening, watch football or visit your family. He got his way.
- The thoughts,
wishful images and self-talk you had before, during and after the event, but especially just before feeling bad. This includes what you had originally hoped would happen and how you now wish it had worked out. i.e.: he doesn't even listen to my needs; I really wanted him to have a good time with my family so we can go more often; he always
has to be in control; he's so hung up on sports, I hate them; he should let me have my way half the time; I don't want to stay home, but I can't visit my family alone; when he dismisses me, I'd rather just read a book and fall asleep.
- Your emotional reactions
about or to the event and the outcomes. i.e.: I feel frustrated when I try to communicate to him; I'm hurt and furious because my needs are dismissed; I resent his self-centerness; I'm scared my marriage isn't going to last.
But, without some instruction,
we don't recognize that some of our thoughts (2) may be irrational or unreasonable. Therefore, my description of this method begins with a careful explanation of irrational thoughts, then more rational thinking is described.
With these concepts in mind,
it'll be easier in step 3 for you to select either a troublesome emotion (3) or an upsetting situation (1) and then go looking for your irrational ideas and unfulfilled expectations that really produce your overly intense emotions.
Purposes
It's necessary to distinguish
between reasonable and irrational emotions. Obviously, fears of reckless driving, an irate person, electrical wires, VD and AIDS, etc. are realistic and not irrational. It's also appropriate to temporarily feel disappointment, sadness, or regrets after a loss or a failure.
One will temporarily feel
irritation and frustration after someone has cheated or lied about him/her, even though one realizes that the person who did you wrong had his/her reasons.
You'd have preferred that
things had worked out differently, but it isn't reasonable to "cry and scream" that it shouldn't have happened or to "rant
and rave" that you can't stand it.
Intense reactions, when carried
on excessively long, become irrational over-reactions. At least to some extent these extreme emotions are based on or augmented by irrational thoughts which can be eliminated.
- To reduce or prevent intense, prolonged, irrational anger, anxiety, depression, guilt, feelings of inferiority or worthlessness, jealousy, dependency and other such emotions.
- To learn more rational ways to view life, more honest ways to evaluate oneself and more reasonable expectations to have of oneself and others.
- To recognize that we can't understand ourselves or others without knowing the "internal environment," i.e. how the person views or interprets the situation and
what the person's saying to him/herself.
Steps
STEP ONE: Identify
your irrational ideas.
Until recently it was thought that only 10 or 12 common irrational ideas caused most of human misery (Ellis & Harper, 1975). Now, it's thought that there are
thousands of misery-causing false ideas (Ellis, 1987), a few of them are very obviously irrational but many are subtle and more convincing (but still wrong). As these ideas are described,
think about your own thoughts, attitudes and self-talk. To what extent do you think this way?
It's necessary for me to describe
several irrational thoughts because we differ very much in terms of how we think. You'll
not have all the harmful thoughts that I describe; you may have only 2 or 3, but they could be
enough to make you miserable. Unfortunately, you'll have to skim all the ideas below to find the few that are giving you trouble.
Here are the common, fairly
obvious irrational ideas described by Albert Ellis which create unwanted emotions:
- Everyone should love and approve of me (if they don't, I feel awful and unlovable).
- I should always be able, successful and "on top of things" (if I'm not, I'm an inadequate, incompetent, hopeless failure).
- People who are evil and bad should be punished severely (and I have the right to get very upset if they aren't stopped and made to "pay the price").
- When things don't go the way I wanted and planned, it's terrible and I am, of course, going to get very disturbed. I can't stand it!
- External events, such as other people, a screwed-up society,
or bad luck, cause most of my unhappiness. Furthermore, I don't have any control over these external factors, so I can't do anything about my depression or other misery.
- When the situation is scary or going badly, I should and can't
keep from worrying all the time.
- It's easier for me to overlook or avoid thinking about tense situations than to face the problems and take the responsibility for correcting the situation.
- I need someone - often a specific person - to be with and lean on (I can't do everything by
myself).
- Things have been this way so long, I can't do anything about
these problems now.
- When my close friends and relatives have serious problems it's only right and natural that I get very upset too.
- I don't like the way I'm feeling but I can't help it. I just have to accept it and go with my feelings.
- I know there's an answer to every problem. I should find it
(if I don't, it'll be awful).
Note all the "things-should-be-different"
ideas mentioned or implied in these statements, including one's own helplessness. Our desires or preferences become "musts" or demands.
Much of this self-talk suggests
an underlying cry that things should be different, almost like a child's whine that the situation is awful,
"I hate it"
and it must be changed.
Perhaps the common
ridiculous notion that "you can be anything you want to be" also contributes to these unreasonable expectations. No one can be anything they want to be!
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The person
loved by the next door neighbor?
Sometimes "if you
just try hard enough" is subtly added to "you can be anything..." to make it more believable (like the subtle ideas below) but then a person's modest efforts become the basis for a
demand:
"I worked so hard, it really
ticks me off that I only got a 'C' or didn't get a raise."
How many of these 12 irrational ideas are similar to your own self-statements?
How many sound pretty reasonable
to you? The more of these irrational ideas you believe, the more likely you are to be upset and have unreasonable feelings.
However, just one irrational idea may be all you need to become distraught.
Furthermore, Ellis (1987) has recently suggested that one reason why people keep on getting upset (even after reading Ellis's books & having Rational-Emotive therapy) is because they've rejected most of the obvious irrational ideas but retained some of the subtle ones:
- Of course, I can't totally
please everyone all the time, but I must have approval of certain people
because I've been
rejected and hurt...
because I was spoiled with lots of
love as a child...
because I really try hard to please...
because I feel so upset when I'm not
approved...
because I only want a little approval...
because I'm a special person... and so on.
- I know I can't be perfectly competent all the time in every area, but I must succeed on this project
because I want to excel so badly...
because I really try hard and deserve it...
because I've done so well in the past (or failed so often)...
because I'm handicapped and feel so worthless when I fail...
because I have special abilities... and so on.
- Oh sure, it's foolish to expect to be treated fairly in all ways by everyone all the time, but
they must be fair to me in this case
because I'm considerate of others...
because people have always treated me fairly (or unfairly) in the past...
because I'm at a disadvantage and can't take care of myself...
because I'm furious and they have absolutely no reason to do
this to me... and so on.
You can see how a clearly
irrational idea sounds more believable when embellished by these pseudo-psychological explanations. However, such statements are still crazy, unreasonable expectations or thoughts which can and do upset us.
Ellis suggests that the tendencies
to have these crazy ideas are inborn, i.e. obsessing about something we want badly evolves into absolute musts and demands.
How does this happen?
We forget the probabilities
and risks involved in our irrational self-talk
- we over-look our lack of ability and determination
- we deny that our strong feelings and needs help convince us we're right (when we're wrong)
- we fail to see that our strong emotions, like anger, fears and weakness, are frequently reinforced (chapters 5, 6, 7 & 8)
- we sometimes think it's healthy
or appropriate to feel strongly and "never forget"
- we aren't aware of our defense mechanisms (chapter 5 & self-deception in methods #1 & #2)
- we may acquire emotional responses without words, e.g. via
conditioning and modeling (chapter 5)
- we prefer to change the situation rather than our thinking (get a divorce rather than deal with our anger, flunk out of school rather than cope w/our overwhelming need for fun)
- we escape but don't solve our problems by drinking, socializing, involvement with activities and cults, dieting, taking medication, etc.
- we convince ourselves we can't really change (and therefore, don't try very hard).
Thus, irrational thinking becomes the easy way out: I can just insist that things should
go my way. And scream about injustice when things don't go my way. That way, I don't have to take responsibility for controlling my life.
Finally, Transactional Analysis
and Cognitive therapy have described a number of other self-messages that are illogical and unhealthy (Butler, 1981):
- Driver messages:
Be perfect, hurry up, try hard, please others, be strong and so on, reflecting unrealistic demands that interfere with our natural preferences & inclinations (see chapter 9).
- Stopper messages:
(ideas that "stop us in our tracks" or "shoot us down" & keep us from trying)
"If
I said something stupid, it would be terrible."
"If
he/she rejected me, it would be awful." (See Ellis's irrational ideas above).
- Self-restricting statements:
"I'll
speak up providing no one's feelings will be hurt."
"I'd
give an opinion if I had all the facts."
"I'd
approach him/her if I could think of something witty to say."
"Don't
be yourself; they won't like you."
"Don't
be different... don't be like your father... like a sissy... like a pushy boss... like an egghead professor..."
- Illogical thinking:
(see method #8)
- False or unfounded
conclusions -
"If
she doesn't love me, no one will."
"He
smiled, I think he's turned on by my body."
"He/she
loves me so much, he/she will make the changes I want him/her to make."
"I
won't be able to find a job and support myself, it's hopeless."
"I know
they're making it hard for me, that makes me mad."
Eric
Berne realized that some people tend to respond again & again with the same emotional response, say self-criticism, pessimism, or anger.
He
called this reoccurring emotion the patient's "racket." The racket - an emotion based on faulty thinking - has become a basic part of your personality.
- Mis-attribution -
often we blame our feelings on someone or something else. i.e.:
"You
make me so mad."
"This
setting is depressing."
"Depressed people get me down."
"I did
it because I was drinking."
"I
only hit you because you were trying to make me jealous." Often we blame the victim.
- Over-generalization,
exaggeration, or either/or thinking - anytime we use never, always, or everything,
we're probably over-generalizing.
Also, many of
us over-emphasize the importance of a blemish, a mistake, our looks, etc. Another problem is when vague words are used, like "success," "happiness," or "good."
If terms like
these aren't carefully defined, how do you know you have reached that condition? Then, some people use either/or reasoning:
"If
I'm not (successful)
yet, I must be a failure." That's foolish; it would be better to think in terms of percentage - how successful have I been? How happy am I? How much progress have I made?
This step is to introduce
the idea of irrational thoughts that cause unwanted emotions. It's a giant leap from recognizing these irrational ideas to getting rid of them.
In fact, Ellis says
we never learn to think straight all the time. How many wrong ideas most of us retain isn't known
yet. Certainly, a better understanding of rational, adaptive thinking would help all of us.
In the following steps,
we'll study ways to detect and correct your own unique, well hidden, wrong and disturbing ideas.
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it's in the news....

a special note from me...
i just want to express how important it is to understand one's thinking processes. it's tedious reading
to some, but all of the information on this page and the following two pages is important to read and understand. take it
in small chunks if you must, but please, consider it all.
also, remember - you are what you think.
kathleen

On Self-Knowledge
And a man said, "Speak to us of Self-Knowledge."
And he answered, saying:
Your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights.
But your ears thirst for the sound of your heart's knowledge.
You would know in words that which you have always known in thought.
You would touch with your fingers the naked body of your dreams.
And it is well you should.
The hidden well-spring of your soul must needs rise and run murmuring to the
sea;
And the treasure of your infinite depths would be revealed to your eyes.
But let there be no scales to weigh your unknown treasure;
And seek not the depths of your knowledge with staff or sounding line.
For self is a sea boundless and measureless.
Say not, "I have found the truth," but rather, "I have found a truth."
Say not, "I have found the path of the soul." Say rather, "I have met the
soul walking upon my path."
For the soul walks upon all paths.
The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
The soul unfolds itself, like a lotus of countless petals.

Can newborns recognize their caregiver's voice?
Even very young infants are able to recognize a familiar caregiver's voice. Infants love to listen to voices and prefer speech to other sounds. Infants love to hear the different sounds, pitches and tonal characteristics of speech which adults tend to use naturally with babies.
It's through hearing your
words over and over in early conversations that an infant's language capacity grows. Engaging infants in communication begins to provide a solid basis for later success in learning.
This pathway to literacy starts
with everyday adult behaviors as simple as talking to an infant about what you're doing while changing his diaper, dressing
him, or fixing a bottle. Hearing your familiar voice also reassures an infant of your closeness and love.
Caring for an infant can be wonderful, but it's also challenging. It can be draining, both physically and emotionally. Providing infants with experiences that promote early language
and literacy doesn't have to require more work or extra time.
In fact, talking, singing
songs and communicating with infants throughout the day can make caregiving more enjoyable and sometimes easier. Young infants often settle down
to the rhythm of rhymes, chants and songs.
Infants become especially
vocal when in a good mood, such as after being fed and they often respond positively to social interaction at this time. Having early conversations with an infant can help make transitions easier and relieve stress for the both of you.
Such conversations early in
a baby's life help to foster healthy social-emotional development.
When babies receive warm, responsive care, they're more likely to feel safe and secure with the adults who take care of them. These strong relationships or secure attachments are the basis for all the infant's future relationships.
Research has shown that children
who receive warm and responsive caregiving and are securely attached to their caregivers can more easily deal with difficult times when they're older, such as starting a new school, making friends
or moving to a new place.
They're also more likely to
be curious, get along better with other children, perform better in school and manage stress more easily. These earliest conversations in the child's native language not only provide the basis for learning language,
but also the foundation for later success in learning and in school.
Can Holding, Cuddling
and Eye Contact Help Babies Grow and Develop?
Infants experience the outside world through their
senses, their active exploration and their relationship with others. The positive emotional, physical and intellectual experiences that a baby has in the earliest years of life are necessary for the growth
of a healthy brain.
At birth the parts
of the brain that handle thinking, remembering and the emotional and social behaviors aren't
very developed. Our expressions of caring through touching, rocking, talking, smiling and singing are a kind of nourishment for the baby.
These experiences,
repeated many times over the course of a day, provide the foundation for the brain's early organization.
Babies actually experience
the way you look into their eyes. They see the expression on your face. They hear your cooing back to them, your singing,
talking, telling them stories and reading to them. They feel you holding and rocking them and they take in your familiar smells.
Touch is especially important. Holding and stroking an infant stimulates the brain to release important hormones necessary for growth.
Just as adults are all unique,
infants are too. They have different temperaments. One may be outgoing, while another is shy and slow to warm up. How they feel about themselves is a reflection of how you care for them.
Being sensitive to a baby's particular cues and temperament foster that child's positive self-esteem.
Find out what she likes and
how much she wants to be cuddled, touched, or engaged with a book. You don't want to over-stimulate babies. Infants can't
use words to communicate their moods, preferences, or needs, but they send signals to the adults who care for them.
The sounds they make, their
facial expressions and the way they make or avoid eye contact are all clues to what they want and need. Paying close attention to an infant's needs for stimulation and her need for quiet times, helps her form secure attachments and learn to self soothe and calm herself.
It's also very important for adults to do what's most comfortable for them. Some adults may feel more at ease telling a story rather than reading one from a book. Some may rather sing a song.
What matters most is being responsive to the infant's cues and attempts to communicate through sounds and language.
What might babies
be thinking about when they look at pictures in a book?
Young babies are
very visual learners. They learn by looking at the world around them and interacting with the people close to them. Newborns can see objects and caregivers as soon as they're born - even though the images are a bit fuzzy - and their
sense of sight develops rapidly as they grow.
Your newborn may
enjoy looking at faces and may stare intently at you for several moments. Because things are still blurry for newborns, they
seem to prefer looking at brightly colored objects or objects that have sharp contrasts - like black and white patterns.
Even very young
babies are able to focus on and pay attention to pictures in a book, although they don't yet know what the pictures mean.
This is a 1st step in picture recognition, an important early literacy skill that leads to understanding the meaning of pictures and words.
As a baby gets
older and her sense of sight matures, she may begin to enjoy looking at more detailed brightly colored pictures, objects and
faces.
Beginning at about 4 months,
many infants show a focused interest in pictures in a book. Infants at this age and older will gaze at a picture in a book
for several moments and show obvious interest in the colors and shapes. They don't yet know that the pictures are symbols
that represent things and ideas - but they're drawn to brightly colored pages and photos.
A baby might develop a preference
for a particular page of a book and will look at it longer than other pages. By the time a baby is about 6 months old, he
may be able to reach, grasp and mouth books and other objects. But it's a baby's "looking and learning" skills that are the
first tool he uses to explore and learn about books.
How is looking at pictures
in a book related to literacy development? Looking at and recognizing pictures in a book are beginning early literacy skills that can eventually lead to language, reading and writing development.
Research has shown that exposure
to books and stories from a very early age gives children the building blocks they need to develop into readers and writers. Judith Shickedanz, a researcher and educator, describes 4 different categories of early
literacy skills.
"Looking and recognizing" pictures is one of those categories. Long before school age, children learn about books and stories by actively listening and interacting with books. A 4-month old looking at a photo board book of other babies or a 6-month old gazing at a picture
of a bright red apple is learning about what books are and how they work.
Just as important, babies who are read to and hear stories from an early age often begin to associate books and stories with positive interactions with caregivers. A baby may begin to learn that books and stories can be comforting, fun and interesting.
These positive feelings may motivate a baby to want more and more interactions with books and stories! Positive feelings about books are critical to literacy learning. Skills in looking, focusing and attending are 1st steps towards a baby being
able to recognize and derive meaning from symbols and pictures - essential literacy skills.
Do Infants Understand the Words You Say to Them?
Although young infants don't grasp
the meaning of your words, it's through early conversations that their language capacity grows. When infants hear you say
words over and over, the speech and language parts of the brain are stimulated. The more language they hear, the more those
parts of the brain will grow and develop.
Making up stories about daily
events, singing songs about the people and places a baby knows and describing what's happening during your daily routines
all give a solid basis for early language and literacy development.
Oral language is key to later
literacy development. Frequent one to one early conversations, maintaining eye contact and repeating back those gurgles and
coos from the baby help the infant to understand the back and forth nature of language and conversation. Vocalization in early months sets the stage for early language and
literacy skills, as seen when an older baby plays with rhythmic language and nonsense words.
Telling the same stories and
singing the same songs over and over may feel boring to you, but with the young child, learning happens with repetition. Speaking in warm, expressive voices and providing opportunities
for a baby to hear different sounds, pitch and tonal characteristics of language are very important. Infants love the human voice and can differentiate human conversation from other sounds.
Infants focus on and develop
language mostly because they want to communicate. When adults engage babies in playful conversation, responding back to the
baby when he makes a coo or sound, the adult is helping to lay the foundation for turn taking in later conversations and is
providing the beginning stages of listening and responding needed for later literacy development.
Why the Early Years Are So
Important.
While scientists
have so far only confirmed a few "critical periods" in the development of the human brain, there's no doubt that the first 3 years of life are critical to the growth of intelligence and to later success in adulthood.
We know from rigorous
psychological and sociological research and from compelling clinical experience, that early childhood is a time when infants
and toddlers acquire many of the motivations and skills needed to become productive, happy adults.
Curiously, Bruer turns a blind eye to the immense and crucial social and emotional development that begins during a child's first 3
years, which provides a foundation for continued later intellectual development.
Following are a few
examples that underscore why and how a child's intellectual development rests on social and emotional skills learned in the
early years:
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1. Development
of Trust : Every person needs to learn to trust other human beings in order to function successfully in society. It's crucial that this sense of trust begins to grow during the earliest years. While it's certainly possible to learn this later, it becomes much more difficult
the older a child gets. Years of living in an interpersonal environment that is unresponsive, untrustworthy,
or unreliable is difficult to undo in later relationships.
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Trust grows in infancy in the everyday, ordinary interactions between the child and the significant caregivers. A baby learns to
trust through the routine experiences of being fed when she's hungry and held when she's upset or frightened. The child learns that her needs will be met, that she matters, that someone will comfort her, feed her and keep her warm and safe. She feels good about herself and about others.
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Children whose
basic needs aren't met in infancy and early childhood often lack that sense of trust and have difficulty learning to believe in themselves or in others. We know this from a multitude of scientific studies, including the research of Alan Sroufe and
Byron Egeland, at the Univ. of Minnesota.
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In a long-term
study that followed infants through toddlerhood and into adulthood, Sroufe and his colleagues found that when children were
reared within relationships they could count on, they had fewer behavior problems in school, had more confidence and were emotionally more capable of positive social relationships.
2. Development
of Self-control: From
the time a child begins to walk, we can see the progress she is making in mastering an important skill:
self-control.
Babies don't come into the
world knowing that nobody likes it when they bite and hit, or grab toys and food from them; they need help from adults to understand that these impulses aren't socially acceptable.
John Gottman, of the Univ.
of Washington, among others, has demonstrated that children who get no help monitoring or regulating their behavior during
the early years, especially before the age of 3, have a greater chance of being anxious, frightened, impulsive and behaviorally disorganized when they reach school.
Further, these children are
more likely to rely on more violent or other intimidating means to resolve conflicts than their peers who have successfully begun the long process of learning self-control.
3. The Source of Motivation: Another pillar of intellectual
development and success in school is motivation. Infants and toddlers develop this through day-to-day interactions with responsive caregivers.
Responding to the needs of the child is a powerful process that builds confidence and an inner sense of curiosity. This motivates the child to learn and has direct effects on success in school.
The more confident a child is, the more likely she is to take on new challenges with enthusiasm.
The Emotional Foundations
of Learning
Trust, self-control and motivation form the bedrock of a child's intellectual development. Intelligence and achievement in school don't depend solely on a young
child's fund of factual knowledge, ability to read or recite the alphabet, or familiarity with numbers or colors.
Rather, in addition to such knowledge and skills, success rests on children, of whatever background, coming to school curious, confident and aware of what behavior is expected.
Successful children are comfortable seeking assistance, able to get along with others and interested in using their knowledge and experience to master new challenges.
Bruer is right that
there's no magic bullet for making kids smart.
(But by erroneously
focusing exclusively on intellectual achievement, he fails to recognize that all aspects of development affect one another and that children cannot learn or display their intelligence as well if
they haven't developed emotionally and socially.)
The task for parents
and other caregivers who want their children to succeed in school isn't to force development. Rather, it's to try to ensure that the moment-to-moment events of daily life give babies
and toddlers the sense of security, encouragement and confidence that are the foundation of emotional health.
It's this that will
ultimately allow them to learn at home, in school and throughout life.
Children and magical thinking
Young children may employ “magical thinking”
after traumatic events – they believe that they somehow
“caused” the problem, whether it is the death
of a goldfish or an assault upon America.
Parents can reassure their children that there was nothing they could have done to cause or prevent terrorism.
Some kids may also feel survival guilt. They may think, “Why am I living when so many others have died?” Adults can reframe
guilt and magical thinking from “What could I have
done?” to “What can I do now?"
this small segment about children and magical thinking - source
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The actuality of thought is life.
Aristotle
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Thinking Problems as a symptom of Depression or Personality Disorders
After researching at great length, mental
illness, personality disorders & extreme emotional states as symptoms of these disorders; I realized that it's important
to consider that "thinking problems" of an excessive or extreme nature could also be a symptom
of a mental disorder or personality trait in a disorder.
Therefore, I thought it important to supply you with that pertinent information should you
or someone you love be experiencing problems with your "thinking processes."
You'll find excerpt from articles, as well as some articles below concerning problems with thinking that could be considered symptomatic of a mental disorder or personality disorder.
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Kathleen
excerpts from: The Merck Manual of Diagnosis and Therapy
"Personality traits are patterns of thinking, perceiving, reacting
and relating that are relatively stable over time and in various situations. Personality disorders occur when these traits are so rigid and maladaptive that they impair interpersonal or vocational functioning. Personality traits and their potential maladaptive significance are usually evident from early adulthood and persist throughout much of life." ....
"Schizotypal personality:
Like schizoid persons, persons with this personality disorder are
socially isolated and emotionally detached, but in addition, they express oddities of thinking, perception
and communication, such as magical thinking, clairvoyance, ideas of reference,
or paranoid ideation. These oddities suggest schizophrenia but are never severe enough to meet its criteria (see
Ch. 193). Nonetheless, persons with this personality disorder are believed to have a muted phenotypic expression (spectrum variant) of the genes that cause schizophrenia."
"Borderline personality: .... At
times, their concept of reality is so poor that they have brief episodes of psychotic thinking,
such as paranoid ideas and hallucinations......Their thought processes are disturbed more than those of persons with an antisocial personality, and aggression is more often turned against the self."
Thinking Problems
Thoughts and emotions are powerfully affected by clinical depression. A person's thoughts are frequently very negative and pessimistic. It becomes difficult for a person to believe that he or she can be helped or ever feel well again.
Those who are clinical depressed often find that they their ability to think, concentrate, or make decisions becomes impaired.
A person may report having problems with his or her memory, or that he or she is easily distracted. This problem can be especially pronounced and cause great difficulty in functioning for those who are involved in intellectually
demanding activities such as professors, computer programmers and doctors.
For children and teenagers, an unusual drop in school grades can indicate a problem with thinking and
concentration.
For those who are elderly, the initial
complaint may be with problems in memory and can be misdiagnosed as being some early signs of dementia.
For some elderly individuals, after
the clinical depression is treated their problems with memory often disappear. For others, major depression may be a precursor to inevitable dementia.
For diagnostic purposes, a person
may experience difficulty in thinking, concentration, or decision making almost every day for a
period of 2 weeks or more. This can be thru subjective report of the person or by observations of others.
(note: you can also read about suicidal thoughts or attempts with depression in this article as well)
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