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What is risk taking?

Risk Taking is Free

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental,

To reach out for another is to risk involvement,

To expose feelings is to risk exposing true self,

To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss,

To love is to risk not being loved in return,

To live is to risk dying,

To hope is to risk despair,

To try is to risk failure,

But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing & is nothing.

He may avoid suffering & sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live.

Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave, he has forfeited freedom.

Only a person who risks - is free.

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Road blocks to becoming a risk taker include:

Fear of Rejection

 

Need for approval

 

Need to avoid guilt

 

Need to always be right

 

Need to know all the "in's & out's'' of a situation

 

Need for certainty

 

Lack of belief in yourself & others

 

Fear of being incompetent

 

Desire to avoid conflict

 

Unresolved anger

 

Poor role modeling in family of origin

 

Fear of failure

 

Unwillingness to face problems honestly

 

Lack of assertiveness in protection of your own rights

 

Inability to take the responsibility for your own life

 

Unwillingness to accept possible negative consequences

 

Preferring to be unhappy, mired in your problem

 

Playing it safe

 

A need for security

 

Fear of hurting others

 

Rationalizing the lack of need for direct action

 

Denial that a problem exists & action needs to be taken

 

Projecting the need for action onto others

 

Intellectualizing about a problem to avoid action

 

Exempting yourself of responsibility to resolve a problem

 

Relying on others to resolve your problems

 

Alcohol or drug abuse "clouding" thinking

 

Over emotional response to a problem

 

Humoring yourself & others to ignore the problem

 

Over concern for everybody but yourself

 

Fear of pain (no pain, no gain)

 

Absence of desire to change

 

Irrational belief that it's impossible to change the situation

 

A disregard for the rights of yourself & others

 

Confusion about your role in handling the problem

 

Lack of ownership of the problem

 

Over-sentimentality for the needs of others

 

Enjoying the sympathy you receive from others for the problem

you face

 

Inability to let go of an old belief in a person or institution

 

A belief that life should always be fair

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The Risks We Take in Our Daily Decision Making
By Stephanie Stewart
 

When is it right to be sensible in daily life? At what time do you know when change is necessary to progress in the direction you need to go in? What are reasonable and transformational decisions and actions and what risks do they involve?

We all live in a reasonable world where people do reasonable things in a reasonable way; a predictable way. This is ok for the majority of our lives but without change our lives would eventually fail. To effect change we must make transformational decisions in our lives.

Reasonable action and decision making means you live in the present. Its low risk because it is simply continuance, doing what we have always done the way we have always done it. Reasonable creates the systems of the world and maintains them while allowing for small evolutionary changes to take place as required. It also deals with the daily-ness of life; what should be happening in the world and our routines.

It is the path of least resistance because reasonable systems need reasonable people to run them and make them work properly. The anatomy of reasonable is that it requires no decision to do because it is already a routine and very little will is needed to do it, with varying degrees of passion or enjoyment and ending with predictable results.

Reasonable maintains the status quo in our lives and our world. When this type of decision is made the worlds systems run smoothly and predictably and things get done in the way we have come to expect. It gives our lives a sense of stability and safety that all is well in our individual worlds and is comforting for us.

Transformational decision and actions bring about all-important changes in our lives and in our world. They are the bases of our survival and are usually high risk. We make this type of decision when we have emergencies, challenges or we are in danger. These decisions change the world and make life-changing differences in our lives.

This anatomy involves making a sudden decision, something that just happens on the spur of the moment. We need to create the will to follow through on them and if necessary, overcome the world and society's training or just friends and families' attitudes.

Sometimes you need to find the passion and at times its just there. This is also where outrageous results live, both positive and negative. It can be a challenging road to follow because it brings change and challenges us to adapt to the changes it creates.

What evidence does the world show that transformational decisions have changed the world? During the Second World War when Winston Churchill was asked to give a long speech, he shocked the world with the shortest speech ever given: "Never Give Up! Never Give Up! Never, Ever Give Up!

That speech won the Free World, the Second World War! Think of the impact of the words and relate them to the circumstances.

Martin Luther King changed the world with "I Have a Dream."

These were very high risk transformational decisions made by these men and taken to the world, whether the world was ready to hear it or not. Martin Luther King was assassinated for that speech and the threat many in this world perceived but years after his death, "I Have a Dream" still reverberates and resonates with us and we are beginning to achieve his dream.

I have never heard his speech but the mere title speaks to me and I know, innately, what it means. These are some of the effects of transformational decisions that are both life and world changing. Not all of them have such high reaching results, most a just big enough to change our own, individual lives in some way.

Usually for the better but when this type of decision is made at the wrong time or for the wrong reason, we risk going down in flames. This is one reason why we tend to shy away from making these decisions, even when we are in desperate need of making them.

So, reasonable decisions give us a sense of what is right and how things in the world and our lives are supposed to work, while transitional decisions bring change and we require them to be made if we are to survive and progress to the next level, whatever that level may be in our lives or in the world around us. Which decisions do you need to be making in your life to get the results you want to achieve and are you ready to make them.

I have been away for awhile but I have several articles that I am working on at present and will publish them shortly. Sorry for the delay and Thank you for your patience. I hope you enjoy this current article.

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Risk taking is:

Opening yourself to change. It's the accepting of the need for change & it's taking the behavioral steps that'll result in that change.

Honest appraisal of a situation in life requiring your action.

 

Understanding the risks involved in taking such action.

 

Weighing the pros & cons of taking the action.

 

Making a choice to take the required action.

 

Performing the action with full consciousness of the risks, pros & cons & potential outcome.

 

Accepting the consequences of such action.

 

The ability to ignore your need for other's approval in order to take the most appropriate action for you.

 

The behavioral process involving the gamble that you may experience rejection from others for the actions you've chosen to take.

 

Pursuing the required actions despite the fear that it'll affect others negatively, resulting in their efforts to make you feel guilty about taking such action.

 

Deciding to make a personal sacrifice of time, energy, ability, & knowledge as an investment to better your circumstances.

 

Hoping your circumstances will improve as a result of your personal sacrifice, but making it anyway.

 

The effort to be honest with yourself about your part in interpersonal problems, admitting that you have certain personal barriers that prevent the resolution of the problem.

 

Admitting to the other(s) involved what the barriers are & seeking assistance to address those barriers & resolve the problems.

 

Committing to become objective in pursuing a rational approach to a problem.

 

The willingness to identify irrational blocking beliefs, which hinder resolutions.

Opening yourself to be identified as being too subjective, too emotional, too obstructing & too hindering in the resolution of your problem.

The willingness to accept honest, objective feedback about the need for you to change your own behavior.

 

The effort to be less subjective, less defensive & more open in your search for truth, honesty & sanity in resolving your problem.

 

The willingness to take a healing, forgiving & forgetting attitude in pursuing the resolution of a conflict.

 

Opening yourself to be vulnerable, to being taken advantage of by the other in the conflict situation.

 

Demonstrating your trust in the other person's willingness to accept an honest, open & upfront approach to resolving the conflict.

 

"Now''-oriented action.

 

Direct confrontation of a problem. It's the absence of procrastination & denial in dealing with a problem.

 

Responsible action taken to pursue the resolution of a problem.

 
 
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